Letter to the Woman Who Abandoned Her 17-Year-Old Pet

“The tech wrote “depressed” on her card. I’d be depressed too if I went from “sleeping in the sun” to a metal cage with a thin layer of newspaper.”

5.1.15 - Letter to the Woman Who Abandoned Her 17-Year-Old Pet1
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From Canine Haven, a safe haven for rescue dogs from all over the world:

You decided that you wanted to move to an apartment that didn’t allow pets (and by the way, landlords are forbidden to do this in Toronto). I don’t know what lured you. Maybe it was a boyfriend or a girlfriend. Maybe it was a great view. Maybe you liked the woodwork. At any rate, it was more important to you than she was. So you took her down to the shelter, still wearing her cute little pink leopard collar with a bow, and you cheerfully wrote on the card that she was very healthy for her age and friendly and just likes to sleep in the sun! I guess you knew her pretty well – you put her birthday down on the card, too, making me believe you’ve probably had her for her entire life.

Then you left, secure in your rationalization that somehow, in the midst of kitten season, your seventeen-year-old cat would find a home. The shelter took a picture of her scared face and big eyes and put it on the web.

For two weeks, I looked at that picture. I hoped someone else would see her fear and feel compelled to help her, but the public wasn’t seeing her. She was back in isolation, getting vitamin B shots and subcutaneous fluids. The tech wrote “depressed” on her card. I’m not surprised. I’d be depressed too if I went from “sleeping in the sun” to a metal cage with a thin layer of newspaper.

Finally today, I couldn’t stand it anymore. I felt too guilty thinking about her sitting in that cage at her age. So I went down and I got her, and now she’s curled up on a fleece baby blanket in a cat tree in my bathroom. When I go in there, she rubs her head on my hand.

Today, I cleaned up your mess. I felt worse for your cat than you did. And all over the city, other rescuers did the same. They rescued your abandoned cats and dogs and bunnies and exotics. And we all wondered the same thing as we did it: How could you create this situation? How is it that you feel no remorse? How is it that you were you able to walk away from an animal you shared your home with for a year, ten years, fifteen years, knowing that they might die because of your actions?

I’ll never meet you to ask you those questions. I just hope I meet the person who will be good enough to give your baby that sunny spot to sleep for the rest of her life (however long that is). She deserves it, and it’s a crying shame you didn’t have the decency to give it to her.

 

666 thoughts on “Letter to the Woman Who Abandoned Her 17-Year-Old Pet

  1. It’s completely unfathomable to me. It’s a family member. Glad my 26 year old horse won’t have to deal with a flip parent. Nor my 13 year old dog. Or my cats. I’m in it for life.

  2. It’s completely unfathomable to me. It’s a family member. Glad my 26 year old horse won’t have to deal with a flip parent. Nor my 13 year old dog. Or my cats. I’m in it for life.

  3. I could never ever… Here is my Minnie, she’s a rescue, 8 month old and pregnant, when she found her way to my door, she’s 16 years young and still going strong, had a real scare last week, and was faced with nearly loosing her. I thank the heavens above that she pulled through, I could never leave her or my other 2 seniors at a shelter, cold and lonely wondering where I am, how cruel to even think of doing.

  4. I could never ever… Here is my Minnie, she’s a rescue, 8 month old and pregnant, when she found her way to my door, she’s 16 years young and still going strong, had a real scare last week, and was faced with nearly loosing her. I thank the heavens above that she pulled through, I could never leave her or my other 2 seniors at a shelter, cold and lonely wondering where I am, how cruel to even think of doing.

  5. So sad. So sick. I adopted my friends cat after watching him for 2 months. He told me his 3 yr old son went through a lot emotionally and couldn’t take him back. I don’t know if I understood this…I tried to… He told me to take the cat to a shelter if I didn’t want him. He’d had the cat for 3 years. -Never! He’s mine now. I just don’t get it… And 17 years?!!!!! That’s so fucked up!

  6. So sad. So sick. I adopted my friends cat after watching him for 2 months. He told me his 3 yr old son went through a lot emotionally and couldn’t take him back. I don’t know if I understood this…I tried to… He told me to take the cat to a shelter if I didn’t want him. He’d had the cat for 3 years. -Never! He’s mine now. I just don’t get it… And 17 years?!!!!! That’s so fucked up!

  7. I want this kitty! I have turned down jobs that require travel, been unable to find housing because I had three cats I rescued, one at age 17, who lived happily for ten more years! Shame on people who think pets are disposable. I keep mine for life.

  8. While I understand your feelings about an elderly cat being left at the shelter, there are always other reasons some people have to give up an animal, so please don’t be so quick to judge. I am an older woman, and my fiancée just passed away, and because I am on a limited income, I have to relocate, to a smaller more affordable place. I am going from living in the country on 9 acres to who knows what. Thus I am forced to either find homes for the pets I am unable to take with me or surrender them to a shelter. I have 5 dogs, 5 cats and one bird. It kills me to think I have to break up my pet family, I love them all so much. They are of all different ages and sizes and personalities, it breaks my heart, but if no one comes forward to adopt them, as a last resort I will have to turn over a few of them to a shelter. Not every pet owner who leaves a beloved pet at a shelter is cold and heartless. Sometimes there are extenuating circumstances.

  9. My son rescued a 16 year old female ( negra ) , he was in collage in Denver and saw in TV , THat the cat was going to put a sleep because her care giver can not take care of her ( the lady was put in a nuesing home ) , and the cat can not be adopted , because she got a problem ( she’ll pee out side the litter box)
    So my son run and rescued her , then he finish his carrer and came back home, He told me momma can you take with my cat, Of course I said yes,
    Negra got to live 21′ very happy and spoiled girl, we miss her so much!

  10. My son rescued a 16 year old female ( negra ) , he was in collage in Denver and saw in TV , THat the cat was going to put a sleep because her care giver can not take care of her ( the lady was put in a nuesing home ) , and the cat can not be adopted , because she got a problem ( she’ll pee out side the litter box)
    So my son run and rescued her , then he finish his carrer and came back home, He told me momma can you take with my cat, Of course I said yes,
    Negra got to live 21′ very happy and spoiled girl, we miss her so much!

  11. Nobody knows what somebody else is going through. I think the comments on here are extremely judgemental. Maybe the owner was displaced maybe she was going to be homeless maybe she had no choice it does happen. I’m not talking about someone who just throws away an animal without remorse but how do you know she doesn’t care how do you know she didn’t go home and her heart was broken. Rather than be negative again it’s an opportunity to remind people that if they cannot keep their pet it is still far better to bring one to the safety of a shelter then abandon it in the street on a highway in a garbage can. I don’t think I could ever ever do that in fact I know that I could not but every individual has their own private hell to go through sometimes and we don’t know why after 17 years she had to make this painful decision.

  12. Nobody knows what somebody else is going through. I think the comments on here are extremely judgemental. Maybe the owner was displaced maybe she was going to be homeless maybe she had no choice it does happen. I’m not talking about someone who just throws away an animal without remorse but how do you know she doesn’t care how do you know she didn’t go home and her heart was broken. Rather than be negative again it’s an opportunity to remind people that if they cannot keep their pet it is still far better to bring one to the safety of a shelter then abandon it in the street on a highway in a garbage can. I don’t think I could ever ever do that in fact I know that I could not but every individual has their own private hell to go through sometimes and we don’t know why after 17 years she had to make this painful decision.

    1. Man….you must be “wacked”….or maybe YOU have done the same???
      So what is it? Wacked or……?
      There’s no excuse for this type of behavior. NONE!

  13. Breaks my heart how people kick elderly pets out of their homes. Old dogs and cats are *easy*. They’re loyal and know all the rules and don’t ask for much. I don’t get it.

  14. Breaks my heart how people kick elderly pets out of their homes. Old dogs and cats are *easy*. They’re loyal and know all the rules and don’t ask for much. I don’t get it.

  15. This is a very, very sad story. But we don’t know the woman’s circumstances. It’s not for any of us to judge her.
    We’re all animal lovers with big hearts. Let’s also show some compassion to our fellow humans.

  16. This is a very, very sad story. But we don’t know the woman’s circumstances. It’s not for any of us to judge her.
    We’re all animal lovers with big hearts. Let’s also show some compassion to our fellow humans.

  17. Heartbreaking. I just adopted a 15 year old dog. He’s blind and probably a bit deaf, has tumors and bad teeth. But he is still a sweet little dog who enjoys a good meal and a soft bed and a little love. And he deserves to be spoiled for the remainder of his days. He is a joy.

  18. In February I Had to help my beloved Buddy cross the rainbow bridge. He was 15 and I adopted him from the shelter when he was 2. He went suddenly blind but that was ok. He was scared and couldn’t sleep so I would hold him all night so he could sleep. It didn’t matter that I got very little sleep myself. I carried him around during the day and and swaddled him in a blanket which he seem to love for the security. When he was disoriented and could no longer find the litter box, I would clean it up and try to reassure him. When he could no longer swallow I fed him liquids with a syringe. When it was determined that he was suffering from a brain tumor, I eased his pain. I stroked his black an white fur until he took his last breath. Why, because I lioved him. I wish I could of had him one more day or just one more minute. Shame on the person who let this cat down when this cat needed you the most. Hopefully someone want do you this way when you get old or sick.

  19. How do I get this cat, I will take her! I lost two of my three in less than a year, ages 27 and 18, have one lonely 18 year old left. He’s a sweetheart, got him at 6 months old from shelter.

  20. Oh my lord !!!!!!!!!!!! somebody help this precious cat she could at least found it a home maybe her family or friend some one you don’t dump them after 17 yrs. Thats when they need you the most how sad !!!!!

  21. I really don’t understand why you bothered yourself writting a letter addressed to that woman. Do you think she’ s got feelings for the cat.
    Be more creative and assertive. You are doing a great job so focuss on it n keep it up.

  22. We don’t know her situation, please. She didn’t kill it or leave it in the street. Maybe she lost her home, dying or whatever? She wanted to give the cat another chance she couldn’t afford. I hope that’s the reason.

  23. Sometimes however there is much left unsaid.
    If this was an easy decision for the woman, that is heartless,
    however you don’t know that. For all you know she may have taken in
    this cat when a neighbor died or moved leaving the cat behind.
    Perhaps at that time the cat may have been 15 and homeless after being a loved pet since kittenhood. Perhaps this woman never planned on taking in a pet, but had a heart that couldn’t let the poor thing fend for itself.
    Perhaps she has to move because she can’t afford to get by without help and needs assisted living herself. You just don’t know the whole story. In all fairness I’ve had “rescuers” really try to push me into taking some cat with a hard luck story and must have thought me heartless to decline.
    WHY did I decline? Because I know hard times. I plan on doing my very best to care for whatever animal comes into my care for it’s life and if there is no strong connection there, that animal deserves better. It deserves more than a home, it deserves to be loved & spoiled. Every one of my animals has had hard times but I took them in knowing I’d give them whatever they needed. To me, it is a 20+ yr commitment. I had one cat who was oxygen deprived at birth and never could learn to use the litter box on a consistent basis. (Confirmed by vet) I would NOT get rid of him. I’d had shelters deny me an adoption because I was honest that I had this one who was untrained (told them full story). I guess they’d rather I got rid of him. NEVER. And none of my others followed his example. They knew something wasn’t quite right with him. I cared for him , loved him & cleaned up after him for 15 yrs until his death. He was a joy and a privilege to care for.
    All I’m trying to say is there are some horrible people out there, but not everyone’s story is the same. I knew one person who refused to get rid of her son’s cat even though she had no room. That cat, after 15 years of roaming free in the home & being adored ended up living in his carrier for almost 2 yrs until he died because her animals would beat him up & her son abandoned him, then took off after his marriage dissolved. Should she have taken him to a shelter?
    He spent 15 yrs spoiled then suffered, alone, all alone in a carrier, not even getting to walk around.

    All I’m saying is there is usually much more to a story than appears on the index card.
    None the less, I thank God there are people like you who care so much and feel your rewards will be great.
    I can only wish that all creatures, pets and humans would find someone as loving as yourself to ensure our last days are at least spent in comfort and security.

    Life is HARD

  24. Still at the Sacramento SPCA in California. Daughter Lady and her Dad Bodey. Share they must be adopted together! 12years and 7 years.

  25. This is Chester he is 18 y/o three legged kitty. I have had him his whole life. Moved many many times and I would NEVER consider giving him up!!! Lifetime commitment and I wouldn’t have it any other way!

  26. Maybe she knows it’s about time for her cat to cross over to the rainbow bridge and she couldn’t be the one to make that decision? I had to make that decision 2x in less tgan 8 months to my BEST four legged friends ever. After 17 years it would be like saying goodbye to your child. ;’-( happy she left it at shelter and not somewhere it would have starved to death.

  27. This is disgusting..that’s about the most soulless a faux-human can get,but a thank you to the person who took her home..it just makes me sick…

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