The Best Way to Heal a Broken Heart

“I was determined not to take him home. He danced around the floor, sat in front of me and looked me in the eye.”

 

Some people are so devastated by the loss of their pets that they can never bring themselves to get another.  But for many, the best way to heal a broken heart is by opening it to another who needs your love.

 

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Bear, my black lab passed away after 16 years. I was heartbroken. I cried for seven months. I was beside myself. My boyfriend said, “We have to get you another dog.” I said “no, I’m not ready.” He said, “Well, let’s just go look.”

We went to an adoption event, but all the dogs were larger. I had heard smaller dogs live longer, and I wasn’t ready to lose another dog for years to come. So I sat on the floor like a child and cried.

The woman asked what I was looking for, and I told her a small dog. She had just come from a shelter and said she saw the cutest little guy there. I just wanted to go home, but my boyfriend insisted we go look.

Once there, all the dogs came to greet me. I have a difficult time with that, always want to take them all home. Then there he was, the little cutie. They took him and me to a back room to see how we got along.

I was determined not to take him home. He danced around the floor, sat in front of me and looked me in the eye. I held steadfast, still determined. Then he jumped into my lap and put his nose on mine and stared at me in the eye, that’s when I looked around at my boyfriend and nodded yes!

That was four years ago. I still miss my Bear every day, but Spencer rescued me from my grief. I love my little baby boy so much, and he loves his momma! <3

 

Betsy – Brockport, NY

 

102 thoughts on “The Best Way to Heal a Broken Heart

  1. I lost my German Shepard Bullet in 2006 and I couldn’t bear to get another dog. He was only alive for 11 years and died of kidney failure. Then my husband and I had marital issues (almost divorced) in 2010. He insisted that we get a bulldog. She saved our marriage and saved me. I never forgot Bullet, but now have Willow to love. We just adopted a rescue bulldog and have 2 wonderful loves of our lives.

  2. I lost my sweet Boston Terrier, Dixielee, Jan 23, 2013. The pain is still there and always will be for she was my constant companion. I have 4 other fur babies all rescues and strays. They will never take Dixie’s place but make losing her a little more bearable. SAVE A LIFE… ADOPT!

  3. When we lost our precious Scruffy, we were so devastated and heartbroken that we didn’t know if we could even get another pet. It has been 6 months and we are slowly healing. We might be ready for another dog soon. I want this one to be a rescue.

  4. There isn’t a one that will replace that which is gone….but there is another that will fill your heart. Save a life!!! Adopt!!!

  5. When I lost my precious Golden Ret in March 2013 I said never again but almost 8 months later I saw golden ret/yellow lab puppies at a local Humane Society and I didn’t get ONE..I got TWO. Love them!!!

  6. It’s never ever ever a replacement. An animal lover always has room in their heart to love another.

  7. In my experience the best way to move past the pain of losing a true friend is to adopt a new one – to honor the memory of those we have lost.

  8. We had 6 rescues and 3 passed within 2 mos from old age and illness. Our mama dog is also very ill. We felt very empty and went to the shelter looking to adopt a little female senior. G-d had other plans for us, because the only little girl available to us was a 7-mos-old puppy!

  9. It’s never easy to lose a beloved pet I know it’ll crush me to lose my little girl one day. I get to hear lots of heart breaking stories with what I do but share in my clients memories. Lots of people enjoy a plush that looks like their pet http://www.facebook.com/ ArtsieDog

  10. The best way to honor any dog that has crossed the Rainbow Bridge is to open your home… and heart…. to another in need of a safe and loving furever home. At our home, we adopt successors, not relpacements ♡

  11. I lost my Gimli in the beginning of August and I thought I’d never be able to love a new companion. Despite of all this, my family offered to me a new pet and I’m the happiest person

  12. I lost my first dog at age 12 – about killed me – and my parents refused to let me have another. I have always had at least one ever since I left home and hope that I will always be able to do that – you can’t replace the ones you lose, by any means, but you CAN help one who needs you, and you will be repaid with a ton of love and fun. And, after all, we all need love and devotion in our lives; thankfully, with a dog, you get what you give them back in spades.

  13. It has only been 38 days since I lost my beloved Aeyla. I know I am not ready yet, but someday I hope to be.

  14. My little shih tzu passed away last weekend. I had her from when she was 3months old to almost 14. The pain is so horrible, but I’m sure we’ll rescue another one in the spring. Our Viszla just seems too lonely now:(

  15. Agree… we just lost both 2 dogs suddenly a week apart in July. The sadness was so overwhelming and we couldn’t really function. So we decided to adopt another rescue dog. In the end, he was the one rescued us. Now we are looking to find another one so he’ll have a brother or sister. 🙂

    1. I just lost mine to kidney failure on the 18th. I can’t stop crying ,sometimes my heart wants to come out..and I was looking for an answer for this pain..he left his little brother and we both trying to rescue each other and everyone have said adopt another but ready yet…its so much memory between mine and me …but i feel so vulnerable…

  16. So true, Blue died vety young of liver disease, the week after we got Sonny. My son’s face was priceless. I knew I’d done the right thing.

  17. my husband & I just had to put our 9 yr old greatdane down friday(5th) because of bloat. Her name was HomeGirl so far we still have our other girl Moose she is 3 yrs old. We are looking for another black female puppy so far haven’t found one. I am keeping an eye on moose hoping &praying she doesn’t get depressed to bad unlike myself I am pretty down.

  18. My dogs that cross over make sure to send another dog to me. It’s kinda the revolving door of love.

  19. me too marla. I lost one of my dogs in the spring of 2012 and the other in the summer of 2013. I knew I would adopt another one when the time was right. the time was right 2 months ago. I love my new baby and feel honored to be able to give him a loving home. I know my lost babies approve and are happy about it.

  20. me too marla. I lost one of my dogs in the spring of 2012 and the other in the summer of 2013. I knew I would adopt another one when the time was right. the time was right 2 months ago. I love my new baby and feel honored to be able to give him a loving home. I know my lost babies approve and are happy about it.

  21. My heart was crushed when my beloved Pookie passed (2000-2007). I said i did not want to love another dog . But my tender heart saw my puppy Tomij in Feb 2007 and he helped me heal from losing Pookie. I still miss Pookie, but im blessed to have Tomij and milo he joined the family in 2008.

  22. My heart was crushed when my beloved Pookie passed (2000-2007). I said i did not want to love another dog . But my tender heart saw my puppy Tomij in Feb 2007 and he helped me heal from losing Pookie. I still miss Pookie, but im blessed to have Tomij and milo he joined the family in 2008.

  23. I always felt that I was honoring my dog when I got another dog. It seemed to me that not getting another one would in some way mean that the loss of my dog (and I do love them intensely) was too painful and not worth the joy and unconditional love I had been blessed with from the dog that had died.

  24. I always felt that I was honoring my dog when I got another dog. It seemed to me that not getting another one would in some way mean that the loss of my dog (and I do love them intensely) was too painful and not worth the joy and unconditional love I had been blessed with from the dog that had died.

  25. As sad as it is to lose our babies but we are saving another life when we bring another baby home that need us and need a loving forever homes!

  26. As sad as it is to lose our babies but we are saving another life when we bring another baby home that need us and need a loving forever homes!

  27. When our old boy, a spaniel named Arthur, was near the end of his life; we brought home a little black lab we named Jake. Jake injected our Arthur with a bit of life and he lasted another year. We grieved awfully when he went over the rainbow bridge, but we were thankful for the time we had with him. Jake has eased our pain and he is now 6 years old. We don’t ever replace our furry babies but we do make room for another x

  28. When our old boy, a spaniel named Arthur, was near the end of his life; we brought home a little black lab we named Jake. Jake injected our Arthur with a bit of life and he lasted another year. We grieved awfully when he went over the rainbow bridge, but we were thankful for the time we had with him. Jake has eased our pain and he is now 6 years old. We don’t ever replace our furry babies but we do make room for another x

  29. I have always been on a rescue list for emergencies and only once did i get a call… 2 days after my little Maltese, Snoopy, lost his battle with cancer. It was the hardest decsion ever because we had barely had a day to greive but somehow we knew that this other dog was in dire need and so were we. Coconut has been a joy ever since we picked him up and I know Snoopy would approve.

  30. I have always been on a rescue list for emergencies and only once did i get a call… 2 days after my little Maltese, Snoopy, lost his battle with cancer. It was the hardest decsion ever because we had barely had a day to greive but somehow we knew that this other dog was in dire need and so were we. Coconut has been a joy ever since we picked him up and I know Snoopy would approve.

  31. I was devastated when this little one, Maryana Renesmé, died on 08-23-2014. She had the fading puppy syndrome since day 1. But when she passed away, I told myself to stay strong for the other 5.

  32. I was devastated when this little one, Maryana Renesmé, died on 08-23-2014. She had the fading puppy syndrome since day 1. But when she passed away, I told myself to stay strong for the other 5.

  33. I still miss my dog from many decades ago.I know should’ve gotten a dog by now but we got two kittens who filled the whole left by our wonderful dog.We all recover eventually but it takes time.Just remember your dog humor cat was happy and loved you too.Even though us humans made them look at us like we were the crazy ones.Stay strong everyone!

  34. I miss my Big Boy every day. Two years this August. This past February I was ready to be a mom again. No regrets!!! She fills me up. Save another dog or cat. It will make you feel better. ^..^

  35. I couldn’t agree more! I know my Bailey girl would not have wanted her bed, toys, collar, and food bowl to sit idle…she smiles as me everyday from the other side of the rainbow bridge because soon after she left I adopted and a Sr. girl from a shelter…she doesn’t have a lot of years left…but they will be good years! <3

  36. You can never replace a beloved dog. They are in your heart forever. But you can find room in your heart for new puppies to love.

  37. I have lost 3 dogs in my life and my home was empty without one of these fantastic animals. They are there when you are happy and sad and give such a lot of love and companionship.

  38. I just lost my 9 year old pom Zoe to cancer last Thursday and even as I´m writing this, tears are falling from my eyes because eventhough I know that she is now resting and she is not suffering any more, I still miss her so much . I am thankful that we had each other and hope that she will be waiting for me on the other side when my time comes. God bless you and your boyfriend.

  39. The problem is that people think you’re replacing that lost baby. That doesn’t happen. They are all different and there is infinite love for each of the babies. It’s a shame that good homes go to waste because of the sadness of losing one. The best way to honor a lost baby is to share their beloved home with a baby that needs one.

  40. That was happen to me when i lost my Dog this May 19, i Cry everyday, until this day i am still hurting and crying, i got me one like her, i do love my new Dog, but still the pain its still here, i still misses her so much

  41. That has always been true for us. It doesn’t take away the hurting, but you have a new dog who needs and loves you.

  42. I look at it as one dog leaves your life it opens it for another dog to get a home and love. Dogs can bring you so much joy and teach us so much.

  43. I lost my 3 yorkie children within a year… I can’t live without a furry child…. I had 2 within a month…. now I have 4

  44. In May of this year, we took in a lost puppy 6/7 months old, our friend had found, they could not keep her while looking for owner as they had 3 large indoor dogs. We never planned to keep her, but with in days, she had toys and snacks, and collar with matching leash. And of course we had to name her,, then our son whom is disabled, learned to say her name and she ,( Gypsy Rose) would give him kisses, then our Holly ( chow mix) passed away suddenly,,we still dont know why. So now Gypsy Rose is part of our family,, and what joy she has brought, No one ever claimed her, she is ours now!

  45. I’m in the “too devastated to ever get another” category and it’s been 2.5 years since my dog passed away.

  46. I felt embarrassed that I got a new dog the day my old dog died. My vet said that doing that honored my old dog. He said that it meant I love my old dog so much that I couldn’t handle not having a dog, since I had had such a positive relationship I knew I needed to continue that.

  47. I lost Ryder my first dog and truly my bestfriend 5yrs ago and I still cry and miss him dearly. I had gotten Ryder a buddy and without Preston I don’t know how I wouldve gotten through. After a year of just Preston and I he was miserable so I brought home Lochlynn. They are the best of friends and I am happy to see Preston happy again. Although no other dog will replace Ryder and the special bond we had, I love my two now dearly and don’t think I could ever be without a dog again.

  48. Marianne there is nothing to be embarassed about. We all grieve differently and that was what worked for you. It doesn’t take away from what you had what your other dog. All dogs want is to make their “owners” (I don’t like that term but) happy so I am sure your first dog is happy that you are happy (or trying to be).

  49. When I had to say goodbye to my 19 year old Cat Sisse recently, I was devastated. She had ben with me for half my live. Bud I knew it would be in Sisse spirit, to adopt a new cat. I still think about Sisse every day. But me and my boyfriend, are very happy, whit ower new Kitty. And Itell he stories about Sisse. And It’s all whoth it <3

  50. Yes, it is the best way to heal a broken heart – actually, two broken hearts. And btw, you have a wonderful boyfriend who loves you too.

  51. we just lost our german shorthair puppy yesterday. we’ve only had him for a month. in that time he filled our hearts with love and laughter. he gave our senior dog someone to play with and love. our hearts are breaking today. i know that someday we will be ready to open our home to another, and our senior dog has been a real comfort to both of us even though i know that he, too, misses his little buddy.

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  53. I love you pheebee,, with all my heart,, but my everyone took her away from me. My loving beagle. I’m typing this with tears falling from my eyes. please don’t make anyone to happen the thing i was onnawaaaaaaaaannnnnnnnnnnn

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