The Shape of His Head Does Not Determine the Size of My Dog’s Heart

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While out on the hiking trails of Cleveland, Ashley Gulla knows that she’s likely to come across people who will discriminate against her dog just because he’s a pit bull.  But because he’s a pit bull, he gives her all the love she needs to get over the harsh words of the bigots they encounter.

 

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By Ashley Gulla | Rescue Me Ohio

 

There I was, in the Wal-Mart parking lot, sitting quietly in my car.  Seventy pounds of gorgeousness sat next to me in the passenger seat.  His body curled up into a ball, eyes closed, faintly snoring.  We had just finished a hike.  Something we do pretty regularly, as Cleveland has some of the most gorgeous trails around, and each time I prepare to either be warmly welcomed by fellow hikers, or have to politely smile while dirty looks and rude comments are thrown our way.

On this particular day, the latter happened.  It’s nothing new at this point, and each time I try to be understanding that some people just might not like big dogs.  Maybe they’ve had a bad experience, or their mom’s neighbor had a mean dog, or hey, they just might not like dogs in general, big or small.

Either way, I usually nod my head and keep going.  This day, however, has stuck with me since it happened.  The exact words from this father’s mouth, in front of his two small children and wife, as he nearly sprinted away from us, was this:  “That dog ain’t killing my family!  He isn’t coming anywhere near us!”

 

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And that’s exactly what happened because Romeo, who is a pretty muscular guy, was quietly sitting on the opposite side of me when our path crossed this family’s.  The man bolted away and I was left standing there, looking down at this dog who didn’t seem like a dog anymore because he was part of my family, realizing how ignorant the world actually is and trying to understand discrimination at its finest.  I have a feeling if Romeo could talk he would tell me not to care and that it wasn’t worth getting upset over, but I do care and I was upset.

Well, we kept on our adventure for the day and ended up at Wal-Mart because I needed some eggs.  I sat there, listening to Romeo snore, and was reflecting not only on the day, but also the year.  A year ago, I had no idea who he was or who I had become.  Both of us lived very different lives than the ones we live now, and I felt more than gratitude welling up.

Maybe it was that guy’s comment that really sent me over the edge, but I remember hearing the first few notes of one of my favorite songs — Jeff Buckley’s version of Hallelujah — and tears formed in my eyes.  I sat there quietly looking out my window, and before any rolled down my cheeks, this wonderful guy came and sat on my lap.  There we squeezed into the tiny space between the steering wheel and my seat, together.  His head resting on my shoulder, mine on his.  With my arms draped around his body the tears came, landing on his beautiful steel grey coat.  I felt loved.

 

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He’s a dog, just a dog, and a pit bull at that, but I love him.  And I have a dream that one day people will be able to see him, and dogs just like him, the way I do, and the way millions of other pit bull owners do.

I’ve learned more about prejudice and discrimination in the last 10 months of my life than ever before.  It’s not the color of your skin, the slant of your eyes, the sound of your voice, or the shape of your head that determines who you are.  And the truth is we’re all capable of a hurting someone tremendously.  But we’re also all capable of loving someone tremendously.  We’re capable of helping, healing, and accepting someone.  Pit bulls are no different.

When we discriminate against any certain type of person or dog, specifically pit bulls, we are moving in the wrong direction.  With every nasty comment, abusive action, and ban put on these dogs, we are all taking steps backwards, and it’s my hope that one day we can stop.  It is my dream, and the dream of many, that these dogs will one day be greeted with love and wonder, rather than fear and hatred.  And that they will get the chance to share a love that exists purely because it just does.

It doesn’t take much to fall in love with them.  They sweep in, claim a little piece of your heart, and change you forever.  You will wonder how you ever really lived before, and you will fight to show the rest of the world that something as silly as the shape of their head does not, cannot, and will not ever determine just how much they can love.  And to judge them solely based on that is a mistake.

Had you asked me a year ago if I thought it was possible to feel the most genuine kind of love from a seventy pound pit bull, while sitting in my parked car with tears in my eyes because of a past I wasn’t happy with, I would have probably told you no.  But I would have been very wrong, and how amazing would this world be if we could all be proven wrong about something like that.

 

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48 thoughts on “The Shape of His Head Does Not Determine the Size of My Dog’s Heart”

  1. To Ashley Gulla – it is sad that so may people judge certain breeds just by what they think they know about that breed. My ex-wife Melissa and I are devoted animal lovers. I personally prefer the German Shepherd breed, however, whenever we are out and we see Pits, we go to them right away. Many people do not realize that Pits are a “Nanny” dog. The most dangerous thing about a Pit is their tails. A Pit, like any animal only wants love and loyalty and in return, they give so much more. Pits are used for many different jobs too. Search and rescue, bomb discovery and even in New York, a police department has a K-9 Pit Officer! Cool huh?! So Ashley, stay strong! I hope that as time goes on, whenever you encounter someone who ignorant about how truly wonderful Pits are, and you become sad and upset, just look at Romeo, because I feel that he will have enough strength and love to get you through anything. Bless you and Romeo and I pray you have a very happy and merry holiday season.

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  2. I have two herders: an Australian Shepherd and a Border collie, they have the typical personality of the Herder group of dogs, I have no sheep, cattle etc so they have learned to not herd everyone and thing, I guess If I did get some sheep or goats, the dogs would soon revitalise their innate nature.. I’ have several tenants that have pits that have their personality also, No question that they are also loving companions but have also ALL been aggressive to other dogs! Dog fights here are mostly about pit bulls.

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